Alex Kapp

As you can probably guess, I’m divorced. I mean, what kind of divorce manager and coach would I be if I hadn’t gone through it myself? Like everyone else who gets married, divorce obviously wasn’t part of my plan. But if you’re reading this, you, too, know that life doesn’t always turn out exactly how you thought it would.

After 19 years of marriage, two amazing daughters, and a successful acting career in television, my marriage ended, and everything turned upside down. The early days, weeks, and months of my separation were fueled by adrenaline (and a solid amount of chardonnay). I was basically flying by the seat of my pants, and truth be told, I was completely overwhelmed. I felt like a burden to my family and friends most of the time, and I was grieving the loss of what I thought my future would be. I felt like I’d failed my kids and myself. And on top of all that, I had so many questions about where to start and how to move forward, and I had no idea where to find the answers.

HOW I CAN HELP YOU

There’s no point in sugar coating it. Divorce sucks. Sorry, but it’s the truth. And unless you’ve done it before, most of it is a complete, overwhelming, terrifying unknown. And if you have kids, it’s just that much harder.

When we go through trauma, our brains go into fight or flight mode, and some days, it can feel nearly impossible to get your kids to school, much less choose an attorney, prepare your financial documents, and have a contentious conversation with your soon-to-be ex. Divorce brings with it a healthy dose of grief, anger, confusion, fear and hopelessness. And it can feel equally impossible to imagine that things will ever be normal again.

And that’s where I step in. I know how to get to the other side, and I can help you get there. It’s my job to help you think through things clearly when you don’t feel like you can, to reassure you that you have the power to make good decisions for yourself and for your family, and to help you make a plan to get you through the to the next chapter of your life. And when you do get to the other side of divorce, I want you to be able to say that you didn’t just survive it, you aced it.

I believe that everyone has the power to write and rewrite their story. Do you want your divorce to be painful, mean, ugly, and bitter? Of course you don’t. And you can’t control everything or everyone during the process. But you do get to decide how and who you want to be. I know from my own experience that taking the high road was really challenging sometimes, but it was always worth it. I will always encourage you to stay true to who you are and your core values, and to lead with your best self. In other words, I will always stand by the GOLDEN RULE. Because I want you to walk away from this chapter in your life knowing you did the best you possibly could for yourself and your family.