WHO I AM
For 25 years, I’ve had a successful career as an actress on television. I’ve been on Seinfeld, Friends, and Two and a Half Men, and I co-starred for five years as one of the “meanie moms” on the New Adventures of Old Christine with Julia Louis Dreyfus. I have always laughed my way through life, and I was lucky enough to make a career out of it.
Well… as you can probably guess, since you’re in a divorce coaching directory, I’m divorced. I mean, what kind of divorce coach would I be if I hadn’t gone through it myself? Like everyone else who gets married, divorce obviously wasn’t part of my plan. But if you’re reading this, you, too, know that life doesn’t always turn out exactly how you thought it would.
It never occurred to me that I wouldn’t be married forever.–once I got married, that is. I wasn’t the “I’ve always dreamed of walking down the aisle” kind of gal. But when I married my ex-husband at 25, I, like everyone else, assumed it was until death did us part. As it turns out, death did not do the parting. In 2014, nineteen years into my marriage, trying to hang onto my acting career, raising my two girls, a slightly demented dog and a cat with bladder issues, I discovered in an instant that my marriage was over.
The early days, weeks, and months of my separation were fueled by adrenaline (and a solid amount of chardonnay). I was terrified and weirdly exhilarated at the same time. I hadn’t planned on my marriage ending in that particular moment. But still, I had to admit to myself that it hadn’t been great for a long time. Everything happened so fast, and I was basically flying by the seat of my pants. The only thing I knew for certain was that it was my job to make sure my daughters were okay.
Aside from that, I had absolutely no idea what I was doing. I was just putting one foot in front of the other. In case you hadn’t noticed, there is no “How to Get Divorced” guide that tells you exactly how to get divorced and come out the other side. (hmm, now there’s an idea…) And I had so many terrifying, unanswered questions…
Listen. Divorce is a ruddy, muddy, bumpy, dusty, unpaved road laden with potholes and puddles and detours and wild things that dart in front of your car out of nowhere. It can be terrifying sometimes, and a thrilling, catch-air kind of Indiana Jones ride other times. But if your tires are low on air, you only have one headlight, and your windshield wipers don’t work, it’s going to be a much tougher ride.
I found the answers to all my questions eventually, as everyone does. But I remember wishing I had something or someone to help me navigate the process legally, financially, logistically, and yes, emotionally. Not to beat a dead metaphor, but what I was missing was GPS. I am now a blissfully, happily divorced CDC® Certified Divorce Coach. Your divorce GPS, if you will. There is so much waiting for you at the end of that road. Let me help you get there in one piece.
WHY I DO WHAT I DO
I believe that everyone has the power to rewrite their own story. Do you want your divorce to be painful, mean, ugly, and bitter? Of course you don’t. And you can’t control everything or everyone during the process. But you get to decide how and who you want to be. I know from my own experience that taking the high road was really challenging sometimes, but it was always worth it. I want you to walk away from this chapter in your life knowing you did the best you possibly could for yourself and your family. My job is to help you do that. And that’s why I do what I do.
HOW I CAN HELP YOU
As a divorce coach, I’m here not to replace your attorney or therapist or financial planner. I’m here to help you work more efficiently with them. Nor am I here to tell you what to do or how to do it. I’m here to help you figure out for yourself what’s best for you and your family. Coaching is about moving forward, helping you through transition, and standing beside you as you take steps to move through and out of your marriage into a new life filled with possibility. You can do this. And I’m here to do it with you.
Coaching to help parents achieve a healthy family dynamic. Please contact me for a 10-15 minute clarity call to see if and how I can help.
There are people who touch our lives at certain parts of our journey that forever change our lives. Alex is one of those persons. While I was going through a crisis in my marriage of 26 years, she was a compassionate and honest coach who skillfully guided me through a very difficult time. She was there for me day or night and helped me make the right decisions for ME in ways that friends and family could not. In the end, I did not get a divorce and I am moving forward in my life and marriage with the strength and confidence to forge a healthier and more honest relationship with my husband and myself. I owe much of my personal growth to Alex and I will be forever grateful. -Lisa
I help parents going through divorce achieve a healthy family dynamic. DM me on instagram at @alexkappcoaching or on LinkedIn at http://www.linkedin.com/in/alexkappcoaching for a 10-15 minute complimentary clarity call to see if and how I can help you.
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