Erin Schaden
CDC Certified Divorce Coach®
Erin Schaden Coaching
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About my Practice

Divorce coaching is an essential part of the dissolution process taking a devastating event and turning it into launching pad for a new life. Divorce coaches have experience in the legal and emotional aspects of divorce and can assist in finding a path forward that aligns legal objectives with emotional realities. Coaching isn’t therapy.  Therapy is figuring out how you got here.  Coaching is a dynamic, collaborative process to help you move on.

Services I Offer

I assist in all aspects of divorce, custody and separation.  From pre-divorce planning, to selecting the right attorney all the way through until you are done.  No matter where you are in the process:  thinking about it, worrying about it, planning for it, doing it or recovering from it, our work together will help you navigate the turbulent times, and come through to the new life that awaits you.


CDC Certified Divorce Coach®
Juris Doctorate

Professional Memberships


Background Experience

I am the CEO and Founder of, and a seasoned professional with over 28 years of experience in the legal field. As a licensed attorney in Maryland, New Mexico, and the District of Columbia, my career has been marked by diverse experiences and an unwavering commitment to helping clients navigate the complex and often emotionally charged landscape of family law.

From my early days as a family law litigator in Washington, DC, to my tenure as the Executive Director of a high-end boutique family law firm in Montecito, California, I have always been dedicated to providing clients with the support and guidance they need to move forward in their lives.

In April 2022, I made the bold decision to leave the law firm world and launch my own coaching and mediation practice, focusing on helping families navigate the challenges of divorce and custody disputes. I also coaches in the areas of sobriety, life, and parenting for children in residential treatment.

With my deep understanding of the legal system and passionate commitment to helping others, I believe I am the ideal guide for anyone looking to navigate the difficult terrain of family law. And when I’m not working, you can find me hiking, writing, or soaking up the sun at the beach, living a life that demonstrates that life after divorce can be the best life you’ve ever had.

  • Bar Admissions:
  • State Bar of New Mexico, 2003.
  • US District Court for the District of Columbia, 1999.
  • US District Court for the District of Maryland, 1997.
  • District of Columbia, 1997.
  • State Bar of Maryland, 1996.


  •  J.D., Florida State University College of Law, 1995
  • B.S., Florida State University, 1992


  • AFCC, Association of Family and Conciliation Courts, (2018 – present).
  • Casa Serena Board of Directors, (2017 – 2022).
  • Association of Legal Administrators, (2016 – 2019).
  • Ojai Valley Alano Club Board of Directors, (2015 – 2017).

When considering coaching in the area of divorce, Erin is a cut above the rest. Her personal experience and practical knowledge coupled with a savvy and strategic mind is only exceeded by her beautiful soul. Erin has helped me through some of the most difficult moments in my life and has brought reason in the midst of great emotion. If you are dealing with a divorce, then I highly recommend Erin Schaden Coaching and Mediation for a strategic and well thought approach.  Nicole – former client.

I wish I had learned about a divorce coach and found Erin soon after my separation. It probably would have saved me a lot of costs in attorney fees. She helped take the emotion out of my decisions and frustrations. I needed someone to strategize with and she was the one I would reach out to before contacting my attorney. Erin helped put things in perspective and gave me other ideas that I didn’t think about, which helped calm my nerves through a difficult divorce and custody battle. Katrina – current client.

I knew after a 15 minute phone call with Erin that there was no one else I’d want by my side as I approached leaving my husband.  It was very clear, early on, that Erin’s wealth of experience and understanding of the divorce process was vast.  Erin is direct and sincere, her coaching and guidance helped me through some of the most delicate components of my divorce process – she taught me just how much details matter.  I always felt important to Erin, and got the sense that she’d drop everything to support me when I needed her most. I have since referred Erin to others, she was the best part of my divorce! I’m forever grateful for her strength, wisdom, and careful attention to me, my daughters and my case.  Carrie – former client.

Erin Schaden is the best! She is a loyal and genuine person with so much knowledge, strength, reliability, and great guidance on how to face, work through, and overcome challenges. I deeply value all of our conversations and am so grateful to have crossed paths with Erin.  Jessie – former client.

Book a Complimentary Session

I offer a complimentary 30 minute session.  Please call me (805-758-8445) or email me ( to set one up today!

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