As a serial expat who has lived in 11 countries on 4 continents, I have been a trailing spouse for nearly 25 years and have experienced a divorce while living abroad, I genuinely support my clients through the process of an international divorce.
My practice as a divorce coach
I help you put things from different perspectives as I guide you through the process of the divorce, so you understand better what your options are.
I help you following my unique methodology, “STAND UP.”
– SUPPORT: get as much support as you need, from friends to professionals
– TIMING: Get organised, take your time to assess your situation and options
– AWARENESS: Bring self-awareness in everything you do, make informed decisions
– NURTURE: Self-care is essential during this time of your life
– DETERMINATION: Determine what you want, need and wish for
– UNIQUE: you are unique, your situation is unique, your family is unique, your divorce is unique
– PROUD: Be proud of every step you are taking, put your pride in the right place to be at your best self
BALANCING YOUR EMOTIONS
I give you space and time to “lose it” when you need it, safely and without judgment. During this time and more than ever, your children will also depend on you: your role as the primary emotional support person will increase, and you will also need someone to lean on. I will be here for you.
Accepting your emotions is one of the best “treats” you can give yourself.
Using different technics and tools, you will turn your emotions and feelings into potent fuel. Remaining at your best self can only benefit you and your children during the divorce process.
UNDERSTANDING AND PLANNING YOUR FINANCES
I help you understand where you are and what you need regarding finance. This is one of the most essential and fundamental elements of divorce, MONEY! You will need money; divorcing is about money, figures, and budget.
There is no shame in feeling lost and overwhelmed; we all have been through the same thing as a trailing spouse and long-term stay-at-home mum: money was abstract. And it is never too late to get to know a bit more about finances.
Most of all, knowing your current spending, future spending, and what you will need to live after the divorce helps you develop a strategy for your divorce.
it really helps to clarify a lot of things, even to dig out some negative attitudes you had with the money relationship.
UNDERSTANDING THE PROCESS OF THE DIVORCE ABROAD
Because your case is unique, combined with emotions, feelings and a financial situation that are unique to you. So sharing what is happening to you on social media and asking for input can sometimes be helpful, but it can also mislead you or even hurt you.
How does it work, who should you have on your divorce team, and what are your options? I help you cross every milestone that will rise on your way. You will make informed decisions, having measured the pros and cons of every potential outcome.
I will help you address your concerns to your lawyer adequately, so no time is wasted. I help you focus on what matters the most to achieve what you want (to be respected and heard, be at your best to support your children and look at the future as positively as possible).
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My background and experience
as an expat myself, I provide divorce coaching services to the English and French-speaking expat communities.
Ten years ago, after a traumatic personal experience that brought me to the verge of a divorce, I joined as a moderator a Facebook group dedicated to French Women’s expats going through separation and divorce.
Despite trying everything to save my couple and marriage while still moving from one country to another, 2021 was the year I added my own experience to the moderation as I hit the road of my divorce.
I joined the CDC certification during my divorce and therefore was allowed to put into practice exactly what I was learning. And OUAH, it did make a big, huge difference.
The Nadege who started the process of her divorce before her certification had nothing to do with the one who signed her divorce on July 7th, 2022 (exactly 1 year and 1 week after my official separation) with both attorneys congratulating me for a positive and outstanding amicable divorce, with unique and genuine ideas.
There is no better testimony about receiving than a personal note from your lawyer saying how well you did during the process of your divorce.
I am happy to have a few clients who can testify how my coaching practice has changed how they have dealt with their divorce, and I can’t wait to help you too.
Now I am “armed and dangerous” to better serve my clients, as divorcing abroad can become very traumatic: the feelings of loneliness and fear are multiplied, and you don’t know where to start, who to talk to, what to do, and like most of the trailing spouses, you have dedicated so many years of your life providing for your spouse and kids that you have somehow forgotten about you.
As you guide yourself through the ups and downs of the divorce, the emotional labour of the kids, the weight of reorganizing the logistics, and all of the things that will unfold from the decision the divorce abroad, I am here to support you punctually, on the long term, as often as you need me.
You do not have to do this alone.
With the proper support, the transition of divorcing can be an opportunity to rediscover oneself.
I called on a coworker during my divorce as I felt overwhelmed with the process, and more specifically, I was afraid to lose it during a meeting that I was meant to attend with my STBX and the lawyers. So I called on a divorce coach, and as my thinking partner, she reflected on what I was saying to help me see beyond the scene, behind the mirror, and help me look at the situation from a different perspective. As a result, I felt empowered and energized, and my self-confidence was boosted. The meeting went very well; I remained my best self the whole time. What a victory!
I chose during my divorce to embrace new opportunities for a better tomorrow, and today I support my clients in the process of the divorce to uncover new paths and potentials.
“Working with Nadege was a blessing as divorce is a very challenging experience in every way. She is compassionate but also very focused and never fails to reorientate attention on the main things that really matter. She is a true inspiration as she went through all of it and her experience is precious.
Her disponibility gave me the chance to have her guidance when i needed the most.
With her help, I was able to channel my emotions and question the true sense of my decisions.
Her ability of reassurance is priceless as my self esteem has worn out of my 16 years of marriage and years of expatriation where I felt useless.
She puts me back in the center of my own attention and it’s the most important thing on the way of my own evolution.
Eszter H., Brazil
From my lawyer, D.Sussman, on the day of the final signature, translated from French to English
“Let me congratulate you: this divorce is your work, I only accompanied you. You had the intelligence to do the necessary mourning work to make important decisions. I wish I had clients like you every day! Bravo to you and above all take care of yourself. You came out the winner of this meeting with the admiration of all, Go home and get some rest before starting a new life as a free and powerful woman! With my admiration.”
FREE discovery session 30MN
This is a moment to get to know each other and for you to tell me your story.
At the end of the session, you will know if you want me to guide you. If you do, I know that I will help you navigate the divorce landscape, and together we will go to the essence of your situation; I will support you with all my heart, all my soul and share with you tools and technics so you can take control of your future, as we will all agree on one thing right now: the divorce is only a phase, a transition in life, it should not define you, and it should not stop you from wanting a good life. On the contrary, with my help, you might find that life could be even better!
And if you decide I am not the right person for you, this is OK too. I can recommend you to other divorce coaches who might be more your “cup of tea”.
Among coaches, we are very much supportive of each other because the only person WHO TRULY matters is YOU and your SUCCESS in your divorce. Good coaches do not put their egos into their practice.
I am not in your life, but I have been in your shoes and will be honoured to guide you. You will be the pilot and I will be the co-polite till close this chapter of your life and open a new one.
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