Peace is not the absence of conflict, but the ability to cope with it – Mahatma Gandhi
I am Nikki Bould from Auckland, Aotearoa (New Zealand).
Divorce is one of life’s greatest challenges, both logistically and emotionally, and can be as difficult to process as a bereavement. It is normal to feel grief, overwhelm and aloneness. Even an amicable divorce carries loss (loss of identity as a spouse, loss of the family unit and loss of living standards). I am your thinking partner and sounding board, helping you work through the messiness of divorce to create a positive future.
I am an accredited mediator and I support people who are in conflict. I uphold confidentiality and offer insights without judgement. I will listen to what is important to you and help you create a roadmap to move forwards, separating the emotional from the business side of divorce. I can support you in discovering your strengths and resilience and provide you with tools for managing your emotions and communicating with your ex in a way that does not fuel the conflict but still makes sure your needs are met.
As your Divorce Coach, I help you avoid the common mistakes of divorce. I help you develop the confidence you need in your ability to manage all the phases of divorce, including Divorce Recovery. You are not alone.
Together, we can do hard things.
My services include individual (one-off) coaching sessions and coaching packages.
Monthly coaching packages are tailored to the client and include 60-minute sessions with the ability to add text, email, and phone support in between sessions. I also offer one-off 90-minute sessions for specific or urgent coaching needs and a coaching package specifically designed to prepare clients for mediation.
If any of the following are important to you, please get in touch:
- Stay or Separate
- Communication coaching
- Emotional management – hot buttons and triggers
- Conflict resolution strategies
- How do I leave?
- Getting ready financially and emotionally
- Creating a road map for separation/divorce
- Managing difficult conversations with your spouse and kids
- Effective communication strategies
- Co-parenting
- Preparation for Mediation
- Decisions, goals and actions
- Settlement strategies
- Emotional management
- Conflict resolution
- High Conflict divorce coaching
- New beginnings for post-divorce life
- Goals and future plans
- Building a new identity post-divorce
- Effective co-parenting
- Preparation for dating and new relationships
CDC Certified Divorce Coach®
CDC Divorce Transition and Recovery Coach®
Accredited Mediator NMAS
Certified DiSC Trainer
Professional Member of Resolution Institute
With 15 years of experience as a mediator, I work with couples to find a resolution to common issues such as resolving the emotional blocks to communication during and after separation, resolving the division of shared marital assets, and plans for peaceful co-parenting. I am neutral, unbiased and non-judgemental and I support people to gain a greater understanding of each other’s perspectives and underlying needs to find outcomes that work for everyone. I also specialise in Preparation for Mediation (PFM) so clients attend mediation feeling confident about their ability to have their emotions regulated, their needs articulated and their negotiation strategies in place. PFM builds skills in effective communication and emotional management and removes the anxiety many clients feel about the process.
I realised that divorcing clients commonly felt very alone. In my PFM work, it is clear that offering Divorce and Divorce Recovery Coaching increases the chances of couples being able to de-escalate conflict and work towards an amicable resolution and a peaceful co-parenting relationship beyond the agreements of mediation.
With a background in business and business ownership, I specialise in working with men in executive roles who are struggling to manage the difficulties of divorce while working in a demanding role. As your personal sounding board, I will help you find strategies to meet the demands of your job while working through the emotional and business facets of divorce by asking you the right questions to find the unique answers that work for you.
My Divorce Coaching Services are available to you wherever you live. I offer face-to-face coaching by arrangement, but most sessions are via Zoom or by phone, whatever you are most comfortable with.
Please contact me either by phone +64272529993 or via email nikki@thehelpfulhuman.co.nz for a free 30 min discovery call.
Use the form below to request your complimentary session.
